Positive Attitude versus an Adaptive Attitude
Being positive and happy is a good thing, but is being unhappy and negative always a bad thing? Evolutionary psychology would suggest that a positive or negative attitude is neither good nor bad, it depends on the situation.
To refresh, evolutionary psychology suggests that not only do creatures physically adapt to their environment they also adapt behaviourally. So when we look at a lizard that is green it is easy to understand that the lizard has evolved a green skin so as to blend into green leaves. However species also develop certain behaviours. Green lizards also understand that they must stay in the trees, if they venture out onto yellow sand they are instantly recognisable to predators. Most lizards are born from eggs with no care from the mother after birth, so how do they know this behaviour; it is encoded in their DNA. The behaviour of hiding in trees is as important to the lizard as being green and is a product of evolution.
The same process applies to humans; we have evolved behaviours that helped us survive. Each year thousands of humans are killed and maimed by cars and yet we are scared of spiders and snakes. This is because ten thousand years ago spiders and snakes were a real threat to humans. If there had been cars zooming around the plains of Africa ten thousand years ago we probably would be scared of cars as well.
The point being that negative emotions such as being scared, running away from danger were very valuable. Some researchers even think that depression might even have evolved as a response to times of scarcity, allowing humans to slow down and wait it out until good times returned. Hence being sad, frightened or unhappy is not allows bad; it might be the signal to our bodies to unleash a great human evolutionary advantage, the ability to emotionally adapt.
Of course we are living in a modern world and some of our inherited behaviours don’t serve us well today. Being depressed and sitting in a cave waiting for the monsoon rains is not really going to help. Being sad and eating a tub of ice cream again is not going to help it is maladaptive; it makes sense from an evolutionary psychology perspective. So we need to understand that we feel sad for instance and we may need to sit quickly for a short time and absorb that sadness. But, we also must override some of our natural instincts and use this time to change and adapt to our new situation.
So it has been a long way around to make my point. Humans do not always act logically. We often fall back onto old evolutionary behaviours which are maladaptive. We often feel that we are doing is getting us nowhere and yet we keep doing it. The good news is that humans are very adaptive. Once we understand that our behaviour is not serving us well we can adapt and change and we will feel very happy with our new adaptive behaviour. However it takes conscious effort we need to recognise our behaviour and plan to change.
Just one note, for some people maladaptive behaviour is so ingrained that they might need help to understand their behaviour and implement change.